Booty Call

Today I was telling a few friends, at different times, that the whole job search thing is so like dating that it is just weird!  You need to ‘put yourself out there’ and hope for contact, then hope that there is a ‘match’ once you talk, etc.  Then there is the wining / dining type of a dance that you play as you try and find the balance of impressing each other without going overboard and then leaving time for the other party to do the same, etc.

The funniest thing to me, though, is what I equate to the ‘booty call’.  Companies generally do not participate in the booty call antics.  Let me explain…

Once a candidate gets phone screened by the hiring manager the next step is typically to be called in for on-site interviews.  As my job applications / phone interviews all tend to be out of state, getting that on-site interview has been very difficult as companies tend to be suspicious as to whether you would really move or not, and many simply don’t offer relocation any more.

So what happens is that you talk to the hiring manager and get the impression that they are really interested and they may even mention that they want to bring you in but then a week, then two, then three or more go by and you know that the job has gone cold….even if you have contacted them during this period conveying that you are still interested (which is so like “waiting by the phone” in the pre-cell phone days).  I have phone interviewed with about 16 companies and I have never received a “thanks but no thanks” e-mail from any of them.

What apparently must happen is that they prefer other candidates, or maybe just don’t feel the connection with you, so they coordinate for the other candidate(s) to come on-site, or continue with phone interviews or whatever and all this simply takes so much time to coordinate / conduct that they end up choosing someone else or they were so undecided on you that instead of backtracking they just keep moving forward and let you drift off.

The “Booty Call” comparison is that, like dating, there is a timespan that elapses where you know you aren’t the first choice (for whatever the reason), they’re pursuing or sniffing around for someone else.  To loop back on you then looks like the other person dropped them, or things didn’t work out, and it becomes awkward as you both know the score at this stage.  In the dating world, you would be the booty call.  “I’m lonely, I miscalculated, I made a mistake, can you come by?” but how do you gracefully backtrack without exposing yourself to what really went down?  You can’t!

At least companies know when not to call?

About Sophia la Vespa

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